I attended a party Saturday Night which I was told was a "black tie" event... People have no idea what that means- that is the only conclusion I could form based on the outfits that were walking around. The most memorable attire would be an early 40 something male wearing tight tuxedo pants (skin tight that is), knee high black boots, a sheer black top and a studded holster over the sheer top. I think that he missed the "black tie" on the invite and only saw "black"- I felt like I was in an s&m party. I don't think that I have to explain why this outfit was wrong- if I do then please let me know so we can discuss your dressing issues! 
Please look at yourself in the mirror before leaving the house...